Category: Kids

thoughtful thursday

this isn’t as thoughtful as much as it is just a brain dump. I have so much to do, like, to straighten up and I feel like I can’t think straight until I talk about it a little bit. I am a very routine person and then things come up that mess up my routines and then I don’t keep up with things the way I normally do. So things build up and then I look around and my house has just exploded.

Right now I am looking at the kitchen. I did a major grocery shopping trip yesterday and when I got home I had major help getting it all inside and all out of the bags. Unfortunately a lot of it is still on the counters. Being gone all day long and then coming home with stuff that I need to do is so hard with three little ones who really need my attention. They’re getting more independent all the time but they still just need me. I almost always choose them, too. It’s important that they see me tidy up and do housework but it’s also important to choose them when I’ve been away all day.

Also, laundry piled up as it always does when I’m busy. I try to do laundry all in one day. It is the best way that works for me, #projectbrain, and every once in a while my laundry routine gets thrown off. Soooo annoying.

Finally, the biggest distraction of all: the floor and all the stuff that ends up on it. Because children. And an ability to just overlook a couple things on the floor until it becomes too much. I have thoughts on that last sentence but I’m still organizing them to make sense. I feel like this little post doesn’t make a lot of sense, but it has helped me get everything out of my brain and that was the point.

Ok! I’m off to do something, I’ll update later.

Kids Clothes

Having a system for sorting through clothes that the kids have outgrown and having a plan for what to do with them was not something I thought about until Finley was at least a year old. Even then my only solution was to toss anything that he wasn’t wearing anymore into a diaper box and to store it in his closet. Since then I have sorted through those boxes once. And I put size labels on the boxes so I could keep them somewhat organized.

With Eleanor’s clothes, they were mostly sorted by size, by the time I figured out I needed to store the clothes, I realized to go ahead and sort them from the beginning and I would never have to go through them again. Game. Changer. I donated 5 boxes of Eleanor’s clothes this past month and it felt so good to pass them on! And get them out of the closet and house. There are two boxes of her clothes left that didn’t get donated with the rest. I made the mistake and got caught up in looking through the clothes and got sentimental about them. I didn’t have time to go through them like I needed to that day so I closed those boxes up and put them back in the closet. I will definitely look through them later and hopefully I won’t be feeling as sentimental then as I did that day.

I haven’t given anything of Finley’s away, mainly because we have Jake now! I have to sort through the boy clothes I have. And reorganize because apparently I did not do a good job sorting the clothes the first time. Some of the boxes are going to a friend who has a little boy several months younger than Fin. I love the idea of giving to others but I always talk myself out of it by either convincing myself that they don’t need it or that they wouldn’t like anything I have to offer. I was not prepared for the insecurities that accompany motherhood and it has been hard dealing with all these feelings.

Jake has grown out of his newborn clothes and it’s time for me to pack them up. And I am so much more prepared this time around. Third time’s a charm! I have another friend who is going to have a boy this summer that I’m planning on giving these clothes to.

When talking about giving away all the boy clothes, people often question why I’m not saving them all for Jacob. It may seem wasteful to give them away when I know I’m going to have to buy more. But the main reason is we really don’t have a lot of room to continue to store everything we think we might need in the future. Also, many of those clothes are hand me downs from a friend that we desperately needed during a hard year for Kevin and me. So I would like to pass those on the same way but also half of the clothes aren’t really a style I would pick out myself. So it’s very possible they would just sit in a box while I get clothes that are more my style to put on Jake.

Keeping in mind that my goal is to keep as little clothes as I need should help keep me motivated to stay on top of the clothes situation. And as time passes I’m sure I’ll get better at my methods for sorting and organizing baby clothes whether I donate, give to a friend, or even put them in a weekend consignment sale.

Hitch Goals No. 5

Oh I totally forgot to post these yesterday! I’m still keeping my goals simple, infant and all, pretty much planning for something I’ve had in mind for a month or two by this point. I love a new month because I feel inspired to get up and make changes that I’ve been putting off or do a project I’ve been thinking of.

  1. Declutter and restyle bookshelf. I’ve been staring at this bookshelf in the corner of our living room for two months now and all I can say about it is that it needs work. I haven’t been able to bring myself to get everything off of it and figure out how I want to do it but this month I’m going to do just that!
  2. Start a stretching/get moving routine. Pregnancy is hard on the body. Caring for three small children is physically demanding and my body is tired. I need to fix this somehow.
  3. Fix up yard. Spring is coming!!! I cannot wait!! Every year I try to do too much with the yard. This year I’m doing a basic fix up and not much more. I’m not going to be able to stay away from growing my herbs and tomatoes.
  4. Cook more vegetables. I’m in a rut again with figuring out meals and I know we need more vegetables. Now that I think about it, I felt this way around this time last year and I started a whole30 as a way to challenge myself to get more creative with meals. I feel stuck right now with the kids, Ellie eats anything and everything on her tray except chicken, Finley only wants meatballs and bacon. Kevin eats pizza and spaghetti. And I want chicken based meals so I’m trying to figure out a compromise. Mainly for myself because I’m the most reasonable of the four of us.

I think I can get those done. And I’m excited about all of it. Here’s to spring coming!

Thoughts on a Thursday

It’s been a while so I thought I would just write about some things that have been happening around here with us and some of my thoughts I’ve been keeping to myself. It has been a quick month, after all, February does have 28 days. LOL!

The days have been very long, I feel like it has rained more days than not this month. It reminds me of one of my semesters in Starkville when it rained for at least 20 days straight. It was pretty miserable to be honest.

I have done approximately two decluttering projects since my last post, I cleaned up the two overcrowded drawers in our china hutch and I sorted most of the children’s clothes. I’m so happy to have those things done, it will make my life much easier. The top drawer now contains the craft supplies for the kids(and me): colors, pens, coloring books, etc. and the bottom drawer houses extra paper, mail supplies, and a couple of other things that I use to help run the household. It’s been 3ish weeks since I did that and for the most part it has worked. I can’t say it’s the most efficient for sorting mail and such since the mail has piled up again. I think it’s important to note that it is strictly important mail. I’m pretty diligent about sorting the junk mail out from the time I bring the mail in the house.

I donated 5 boxes of Eleanor’s clothes and also took two boxes of Finley and Eleanor’s clothes to a consignment sale that’s going on this weekend. This took several hours because having a system for sorting through clothes that the kids have outgrown and having a plan for what to do with them was not something I thought about until Finley was at least a year old. I’ve been fine tuning my system and figuring out the best way for me to handle kids clothes and it gets easier every time I have to do something with the clothes.

Life with two toddlers and a newborn is just not easy. As Jacob gets older, I’m slowly starting to venture out to do a little more with all three. Honestly, I’m tired of sitting at home. But going out is really exhausting. Jake doesn’t really like when the car isn’t moving so car rides are not always as enjoyable as they once were. And I’m trying to figure out a nap schedule with Jake. Half the time when he starts crying because I’m not holding him I can’t pick him up as soon as I want to so I have to leave him crying a little while.

I keep reminding myself that this is just the first phase, it’s not going to last. But goodness it’s hard and the days get soooo long. Especially when I’m solo parenting it.

The sun has been out for three days now and Kevin got the yard mowed so we have been spending time outside! The kids love being outside, I do too, and it makes the biggest difference in our day when we get to get outside. Before he mowed, I didn’t want to take them out because it was just a mess and a hassle. The clovers came up to Eleanor’s knees and there was just a mess everywhere. I can’t wait to get back started with a garden and some pretty plants and flowers. I love growing things and I’m super looking forward to it!

That’s about all I can remember right now. I had several more things going on in my head but I got interrupted from this post about 75 times today so it’s a miracle I kept a good flow going. One day I’ll be more consistent with my posts. I’m just rolling with the flow right now and doing things as I can get to them.






Slowing Down for January

I’ve noticed a trend on the internet in this new year. Many people are opting to not make any resolutions. Because we were going to be having a newborn, I decided that I wouldn’t make any resolutions or goals for the beginning of the year, but because I’ve seen others doing this too, I have no idea if I came up with this on my own or if anyone on my social media feeds influenced my plans. In my hitch goals for this month, I kept it super simple because all I wanted was my baby in my arms. Now that I’ve had him, I’m ready to spend my time cocooned with my family. I said before how busy the holiday season was for us. Every time Kevin was home, we had so many obligations and we hardly had a day to just stay home and rest. Now that the holidays are over with and we’ve had our baby, I’m ready to just stay home.

For the last month of my pregnancy I was so looking forward to the newborn stage of keeping away from going out in public. A slow down month is exactly what we need. Before Christmas, I was thinking I wanted to do a no spend month because I knew I had spent a lot over the holidays. But maybe what our finances will really benefit from is just being able to slow down and saying no to things.

I’m hoping to spend this time doing things we love like going to the swamp or maybe even the zoo, but that option might not be possible. Something I want to get away from is how much tv we watch. I can almost see Kevin’s eyes rolling at that statement, we have different needs when it comes to how we entertain ourselves, but that’s ok. And at first when I was thinking of having a theme for this month of slowing down, I was coming up with a mental list of things I wanted to stop doing.

But. Something that I wanted to do in the new year was to change how I think about things. I noticed the past several months, or maybe year, or I really have no idea how long I’ve been viewing life through negative words and ideas. What I mean is there can often be two ways to word a statement that has either a negative or positive connotation. Lately I find myself leaning towards the negative versions and I want to change that. I want to choose the joyful route.

So keeping that in mind, instead of coming up with a list of all the things I want to stop, I want to come up with a list of things I want us to do more of. I believe that by doing so, the other things will naturally be left behind. I have no problem with us watching tv. Sometimes I need the kids to be entertained by something besides me. And I know that the more we spend time playing puzzles, going outside, reading books, etc. the more we will be used to depending on ourselves for entertainment and less on technologies. As for me personally, I know my tendencies for having the tv on hinders my productivity and before I know it, I will have spent all morning with the tv on. Usually whatever I am watching is something that is totally non-edifying to my life.

Instead of saying that we are going to watch less tv, I’m choosing to say we want to do more. For me, the secret to choosing to do more is that the doing more has to be what is for our family. Not what other people expect us to do. I think that many people often hold expectations of other people and can be judgmental when we don’t live up to those expectations. Now I’m not saying we should all become self-centered and only do exactly what we want with no regard to the needs and wants of others. But as a mother, my first responsibility is doing what is good for my family and for my children. I’m choosing less of the world, less of the busy; more of my children, more playing, more rest.

I want to do more outside play, more puzzles, more creative play. I believe childhood should be fun and busy in a good way. And if we fill up our time with play, then that leaves less time for filling our day with screens. Instead of being anti-screens, I am choosing to be pro-play.

Ready for Spring

The weather outside right now is absolutely beautiful! I love living in Mississippi because one day it will be freezing cold and the next it will be in the 60’s. I know it’s only January 9, but goodness I’m ready for spring now.

Now that I’ve had our newest baby, I’m looking forward to other things I want to do this year. I feel like with every baby I have, the more productive I get. I don’t know why that is, maybe because deep down I’ve just always wanted to be a mother and now all the gaps are being filled in. All I know right now is that all I want to do is focus on nurturing my family with my love, and cooking meals, and being as creative as I can.

This year I’ve made a resolution of sorts to get outside with the kids more. I believe that we all need to get out in nature more and I know my kids are much happier when we make a point to go play. Last year when we went to the beach Kevin and I dreamed of going to the swamp more and just spending time playing on the sand bar and having picnics and stuff. How fun is that going to be?

For now since I still have a newborn, I’ll just sit here on the couch and dream about the warmer weather fun we’ll have!

Outnumbered 3 to 1

So now that we have had Jake, I’m now more outnumbered than I was before when Kevin is at work. So far my mom and his mom and his grandmother have all helped out tremendously and I’ve been getting a good bit of rest which is just fine with me!

Last night was my first night on my own with all three of them and I’m so proud of how I handled it. I had both of the kids in bed by 8 and they were asleep by 9! I couldn’t believe my luck. I’m not gonna see how tonight will go because my mom took both of them to her house to spend the night. As much as I wanted to keep them home so we could start to get into a rhythm, there was no way I could turn down an easy night! I even had the dishwasher loaded, the kitchen cleaned, and my coffee prepped for tomorrow.

My plan is to take my days and nights slow and not try to do too much. For right now this looks like consistently keeping the sink fairly clean of dirty dishes and running the dishwasher every night when I can. If I miss a night, then that’s ok, I can just get to it the next day. This also means that I need to keep the trash can clear and open by not letting it overflow to the point where I can’t use it anymore. When these two things are being done in the kitchen, then it helps my life run a little smoother.

Finding ways to make everything run smoother is the key to surviving when I’m outnumbered. I’m really glad several months ago I began implementing a laundry day every week. It has totally changed my life in regards to always having clean clothes and I’m more prone to hang the shirts and put away other clothes in drawers. It’s also surprisingly easier to do the laundry now because I only have a week’s worth of clothes to fold and put up.

I also try to run the dishwasher every night. No matter how much or little is in there I just go ahead and run it. I use the same pans and dishes almost every day and it’s just easier for me to put it all in the dishwasher than to wash it all by hand. There are nights that this does not happen. Especially when I was still preggers because I was so dang tired! Surprisingly I was tired more when I was pregnant than I am now with a five day old newborn.

As long as I can keep the cycle up then life will run smoothly. Or somewhat smoothly. I’m setting the bar for myself really low, I’ll onky have these precious slow days for a short time. There is no need to put any pressure on myself that doesn’t need to be there.

I’ve been looking forward to spending January in my own little bubble with my family. The past two months have been so busy among the flurry of doctor appointments and the holidays, I couldn’t wait to slow down! Now our time is here and we get to spend it with our growing family, keeping to ourselves.

Our Trip to the Mississippi Children’s Museum in Jackson









Last Friday I had an eye doctor appointment for a check up in Jackson.  Whenever we make this trip, we like to bring the kids with us and use the opportunity to explore the different museums and places there!  This time we went to the Mississippi Children’s Museum which was a lot of fun for all of us.  There were a lot of interactive exhibits based on things here in Mississippi for the kids to play around on.  They had a blast playing on everything and probably even learning a little bit even though they didn’t realize it.  I’ve posted a few of the pictures I took but I mostly try to record the kids when they are playing around because it is so fun for us to watch them later.  It is also a good way to share the experience with their grandparents, too!  This museum is definitely a place I want to bring the kids back to!